To Mom  / Granny To Angel Stephen Turney
Hello Monica:
      Thinkin about you all this week. I know it's been a hard week. You all are in my prayers. May God give you strength. 
                                                 Hugs to you Monica & Family
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THINKING OF YOU  / Linda JB's Mom (Friend)
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Thinking of you precious angel  / Jo-Ann Pacenta Lauren's Mom (Angelfamilies)
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For Hailey  / Donna Robert Mom To Angie-robert (Someone who cares )

Hailey Neveahlea Stolz

Sleeeeep in Heavenly Peace

precious baby
xoxo

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Kisses from HAILEY  / Karen Gram 2. Jasmyn Easterday

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To Mom  / Granny To Angel Stephen Turney (visitor)
Hello Monica:
        Thought about you today. Hope you had a nice day with your family tho I know your heart is broken. Grief has no time set but one day you will be stronger. God bless you and your family thru this time of grief.        X's   Granny to Angel's Close

Happy Mother's Day Monica  / Linda~JB's Mom (Friend)

To my dear friend Monica

Hope knowing that your little Angle Hailey will be right by your side this Mother's day will bring you some comfort and peace. It sucks to loose our children and I had a hard time making it through my birthday. I know that JB was right there with me but I miss his physical presence as you do Hailey's.
Sending you all my love and prayers of comfort.
Have a wonderful time with your family.

Love and Hugs always

Linda

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Birthday's / Granny To Angel Stephen Turney (Visitor)
To Monica:
      Birthay's are so hard! Your sweet little Angel Haily has the same bithday as does my mother and grandson Christopher. They are in heaven also. I'm up late with my memories tonite. as I think you may be also. I'm so sorry you have to go thru this.Time never takes away the grief , but it does ease the pain. No words can take it away but know that I am thinking about you tonite and will say a prayer for you and your family. Hope that you get some rest tonite and have sweet dreams about your angel Hailey. She looks so beuitiful in her picture. God Bless you and family  
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY SWEET BABY GIRL HAILEY  / Linda~JB's Mom (Friend)



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Missing you  / Johnny Joei &. Malana Rathjen (uncle auntie & cousin )
Our Dearest Hailey,
 It's us your family and we are thinking of you as we do every night but tonight we thought we send you a letter reminding you that your missed every moment of every day. Not a day goes by were Malana doesn't kiss your face on your picture or a day goes by when Auntie Joei sees something beautiful and thinks of you. It's your birthday in just a matter of days and it's just heartbreaking that your not here so we can watch you go. Just know we love you and think about you every day. Love you baby girl

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Hi Monica  / Donna Robert Mom To Angie-Robert (Someone who cares deeply )
Dear Monica,

I was so touched by your beautiful tribute you sent on Angie's site. Thank you for all your kind words.

Monica  you wanted to know when you would start to feel like yourself again, like life is worth living, to feel and give love, to accept the death of your precious darling baby girl Hailey.

Monica I remember so well feeling like you do. I remember getting on this site and asking myself how does everyone do it. I could tell they loved their child so much, just as much as me, but they seem to be holding everything together.

At times I thought I was going to go crazy. I missed Angie so much. I wanted her and nothing else. I have two sons and a husband and my grandson and all my sisters and their husbands, my nieces, my nephews, my friends, everybody....BUT NOT ANGIE!!!!

I was hurt, I was mad, I was sick, I was asking God, WHY? WHY? WHY? her and not me... I was 45 years old, she was 24! Than I would think oh my goodness if I live to be 70 that is so many years away from seeing her. That would upset me so much. I litterly had to stop thinking about that. Now I tell myself to do as much as I can with what time I do have on earth, so I have so many things to share with her. I want them to be pleasent not depressing.

Most of the time I just cried, I'd look at a picture of her and so many memories flooded me, it was overwhelming. I couldn't look at pictures of her for a long time...it hurt to much. At first I thought my heart was going to break, because it hurt so much when I cried. I think we all have this feelings and they are hard to explain.

My biggest fear was I was going to forget what she looked like, what she always said, how she laughed...everything about her. 

I have lots of movies that I have taken of Angie over the years, especially with her and her son. I have wanted to look at this since her passing. I have never been able to. I feel I am able to soon now, but before to see her with her son, to see her laughing, to hear her talking, etc would drive me crazy. Now I am happy that I think I can look at them and see her. 

Angie's death was a shock! So I had to force myself to believe I wasn't in a dream, still sleeping...I was sleeping when I was told of her accident. I was told she was either in a coma or dead!!!! The truth was she was dead but her boyfriend didn't want to tell me that. Depending on the way a person dies has a lot to do with it.

Know matter what we will all grieve the same way. You have to realize it is okay to feel the way you are feeling. It is normal. We all greive differently and we never go through it the same way. Some people can handle death and accept it in no time...others it takes a long time...

For me I have to say my first year, I lived in shocked and disbelieve most of the time. I had my Grandson (who was three) most of the time so that did help me. I focused on telling myself I had to give Jeremy the life his Mother wanted for him. He was hurting so much too. Many nights he woke up screaming "I want my Mommy, I want her now!" I would console him even though my heart was breaking. I wanted her too but all I could do was try and help him through this.

I thought after the first year yeah I made it...I will be okay! (Many people tell you after the first year it is easier) I found reality kicked in. I now had to go through all the celebrations and events realizing full heartedly Angie wasn't ever going to be with us again.

So when the second year came, I thought terrific now it will be easy. Her second Angel Anniversary was the worse. I was so angry...I wanted to scream...I wanted to shout...I wanted to lie down and die... but all that fusturation came out and I have been fine ever since.

Angie is gone two and a half years now and I miss her just as much as the day she died, but I have learned to live with the fact that she is not here in human form with me, but she is in my heart, my mind, my thoughts, and my soul.

I still have my moments when I feel anger, sadness, and lonliness but they pass faster now than before. I did so much with Angie we were so close.

I put all my faith into God and I pray to Jesus to give me the strength I need to help me through this. This may sound funny, but I found the more I asked for help and strength the stronger I got.

I have not accepted Angie's death, nor do I want to, and I don't think I ever will. I tell myself that I have to be grateful that God gave me Angie for my daughter, because one day we will be back together and this time it will be for enternity. If I didn't have Angie for one minute, one day, or the twenty four years I did, I would not have the hope of being with my precious daughter again.. So for that I am very grateful.

I miss my daughter so much. I would trade places today with her if God would let. My dream is the hope I have of being with her again one day, never to part again.

The site memory-of.com was a great comfort to me. It was my Angie's World. This is where I came to be with her. Visiting other sites helped me alot because when you read how some people died, or when some people lose more than one child at a time, or you watch you child die...you realize that as bad as you feel you have to think of how these people made it through and didn't give up.

Just don't make the site your life. I have noticed that people that spend lots of time on the web, seem to get more depressed and don't move forward to fast. When you need time for you, or time with your baby  than it's a great time.

God Blessed you with Hailey because he has his reasons. Reasons we are not suppose to question or wonder why. Putting your trust in him completely will ease the pain. God also gave you your other children, and I believe he knows you have the strength to go on and be the best Mom you are to your children.

We have to remember God lent us his child, and we know that they could go back to him anytime.

Enough of Jesus and God. Monica I can not answer your questions like you would like me too. Nobody can. You have to focus your energy on your other children. It will help you to get by the minutes, than the hours, than the days, etc easier. The busier you keep yourself, the less you have time to dwell on your emotions.

You have to explain to your children what happened to their sister. They are young, they don't know about death like we do. They are probably confused and hurt like you are, but don't know how to express it like you do.

The best think you can do Monica and I know it is easy to say...is to force yourself but at a speed your ready to do things to go forward and make this life the best life you and your husband and children can have.

Nothing we do can bring back our daughters, but we can always remember them, love them, and remember that we were the chosen Mother's for them. Isn't that the best fact to make us smile each morning when we rise and smile each time our heads hit our pillows?

Monica, I don't know if I helped you, I hope I didn't ramble on to much. If this makes you sad, or confuses you please just delete it and never read it again. I wish I was close to you so I could give you a big hug and tell you everything will be okay, but I don't...so in writing I am sending you a hug and I am telling you to hang in, things do get much better.

Lots of hugs and all my love
Donna Robert
my e-mail address is: polopool@yahoo.ca
if you ever want to chat
God Bless
xoxo
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Mommy I hope this helps  / Granny To Angel Stephen Turney (mem. site friend )
Hi Mommy to Sweet Little Angel Hailey:
       I can only amagine what you must be going thru. I have lived a lot of years. Have had to learn to live with many losses in my lifetime. But the loss of a child is the hardest as you must know. Time does help to ease the pain and make it bearable. I don't think time will ever make you get over this loss. But you have to slowly get back into life for your other children. The strengh is inside of you. Tho it will be hard. It is so very important that you do this for the sake of your other children. They feel the loss of Hailey and the loss of thair Mommy too! You MUST pull all your strengh up and TRY WITH ALL YOUR MITE to go on. And yes it is a whole lot easier said than done I know. Most of the time you'll have to fake it til you make it . I'll pray to God that he helps you find your strengh. Hope that you ask God for this strengh. I am so very sorry you must go thru this. My heart goes out to you along with my prayers for your family.Your sweet little Hailey is in good hands. One nite I dreamed that I had ten minutes with my Angel to say goodbye and tell him how much I loved him and give him hugs and kisses. It was a wonderful dream but when I awake I realized it was just a dream and I couldn't look back. I realized that I must give my love and attention to those angels that I still had so I would'nt have wish I had not given enough time and love if they too should leave. Life has no garantee's. We can only cherish the time we have and know that one day we will all meet again in Heaven. I do know that life is precious . Please celebrate the joy of your other children , for as I said , I have had many losses and we never Know when and who .                                                   xxx Granny and Mom to sweet Angels  Close

For you Hailey  / Linda~JB's Mom (Angel friend )
As always I am thinking of you sweet baby girl and your loving family. 
I know you had a wonderful Easter and JB helped you find lots of eggs. You are so precious and you are forever planted in my heart.
I love you Hailey.

Love and Hugs
Linda JB's mommy 

Thank you Monica for lifting my spirits when I needed it most.
I think about you every day.





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HAPPY EASTER  / Linda JB's Mommy (Angel Friend )
Wishing you a blessed and peaceful Easter.
May God give you strenght to make it through another holiday without your precious Hailey.
God Bless you always.

Your friend Linda (JB's mommy)



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Missing you...  / Your Mommy

^{_{I am missing you so much sweetheart! 17 more days to go until your 1st Birthday in Heaven...I am so scared for that day.. Not being able to share that day  with you together makes me really sad. I sit back and think of all the fun we would have celebrating your Birth-day and what toys I would buy you and wondering if you would put your cute chubby little fingers in your cake like your sisters did!!! I miss you more and more everyday...I know your safe and in the best of arms, but that still doesnt take my pain away.. I cant wait to see you again, my sweet Heavenly Angel... Mommy loves you sooooooo very much!!!}}

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Missing You  / Karen Dougherty

I am so sorry for your loss,I have watched all of her video's she is a very beautiful Angel,I want to thank you for offering to talk to me,I will keep that in mind!!!My prayers are with you,Karen

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Thinking of you  / Linda Mom To Jeremie Quiming

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BIG EYE LASHES  / SONJA IORIO (AUNTIE)
I LOVED RUNNING OVER TO MONICAS HOUSE AT LUNCH TO SEE MY NEW BABY NIECE HAILEY.  I REMEMBER HER NEW THICK EYE LASHES GROWING IN.  I REMEMBER THE DAY I SAID "LOOK MONICA, LOOK AT HER EYE LASHES, HOW PRETTY!"  AND MONICA CAME OVER I SAID "LOOK AUNTIE I CAN COO," AND MONICA MADE HER TALK.  I WILL NEVER FORGET THAT DAY OR THE DAY YOU WERE BORN HAILEY, I SAID YOU WERE THE PRETTIEST BABY EVER,  YOU WERE PERFECT LAYING IN YOUR HEATER BED.  I THINK OF YOU EVERYDAY AND YOUR MOMMY AND YOUR FAMILY.  I PRAY EXTRA HARD FOR THEM ALL.  I KNOW YOU ARE WATCHING US ALL.  I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU!                                                  YOUR AUNTI SONJA Close

Sending u all my love & prayers precious angel Hailey  / Janet (Mom To Nicholas Piccolo)

God bless u sweetheart in Heaven with all the other angels

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Condolences / Granny To Angel Stephen Turney
To Sweet little Angel Hailey's Mom and Dad:
       I am so sorry for your terrible lose. She is so Beutiful. Hold tight to each other. Try to be strong for the one weakest in the moment.My daugher and our family have been thru this two times. Little Christopher Shone passed away at one month old. My daughter took it very hard. Stephen was nineteen. But for two much younger children at home, I wonder if she would have made it.She can no longer put anything in the site. I visit and keep it going so that she can see it, and it makes her feel good about that. A lose of a child is the hardest thing parents can endure. Oh how I wish I had the words to make it a little better for you all. I know you've heard that time makes it better and it does ease the pain. It's to soon now to even think about it but one day you can enjoy those memories without totally losing it. Well I know that kind words help a little and thu thats all I have, It is heart felt as I have seen my sweet daughter go thru this and I hate that you all have to go thair to.I know it hurts so,so very much. I can say a prayer and lite a candle. God Bless.                                        Stephen and Christophers                   Close